They always say “you’re cute for a dark skin girl.” They’re telling you typically they wouldn’t care but because you have nice features they can tolerate your dark chocolate skin. 

I want to remind every goddess of the importance of loving the skin you’re in. There’s a huge difference between preference and being biased. 

Embracing who you are goes much deeper thank the tone of your skin, this is about who you are as a woman of the earth. 

Now in this reality, you’re not enough for some and too much for others. That includes complexion, size, shape, height, etc.

Do me a favor and look in a mirror, tell me what you think when you see your reflection staring back at you. If you feel anything other than pure joy and satisfaction, then its time to make a change. 

I’m not talking about changing your appearance, I’m talking about changing your mindset.

If you agree with them when they say “you’re cute for a dark skin chick”, or “oh, she’s too big” then you’re giving them all the power and the problem is only just beginning. 

By now I’m sure you’ve heard Beyonce’s new Ling King soundtrack. If not take a listen, specifically to the song Brown Skin Girl. 

Listen to it more than once. I would say listen to it daily. Listen to it while doing your daily activities. Better yet, create a playlist of positive, uplifting songs. Allow the words of encouragement to lift your mind and your heart. 

My point is to let your soul shine. This is what they don’t want. Black women were put on this earth to break barriers. 

Don’t be afraid to explore. Explore your inner beauty, if you feel like you want to experiment, do it; make your skin pop. But, never be ashamed of the skin you’re in. Light or dark, bumpy or smooth. Your black is beautiful and that’s something you can’t be robbed of. 

So look in the mirror every day, really look until you smile at the woman starring back at you then never stop smiling. 

Embrace that smile. Embrace all of you. Once you’ve achieved that, don’t be afraid to help a sista goddess in need. Help her spirit shine. We can all help adjust each other’s crowns. 

Manifest your black beauty.