No relationship is perfect. But sometimes we find ourselves in romantic relationships or friendships that bring out the worst in everyone involved. It’s not always one person’s fault over the other. Sometimes people just aren’t right for each other. Here are 10 differences between toxic and healthy relationships to keep in mind when developing new relationships (or looking to leave old ones).

Toxic relationships: They are critical.

Healthy relationships: They are supportive.

Toxic relationships: They are passive aggressive.

Healthy relationships: They let it out.

Toxic relationships: They hold grudges.

Healthy relationships: They let the past remain in the past.

Toxic relationships: They don't let you be yourself.

Healthy relationships: They let you be exactly who you are.

Toxic relationships are all about taking.

Healthy relationships are equal give and take.

Toxic relationships are about avoidance.

Healthy relationships are about togetherness.

Toxic relationships make your life messier.

Healthy relationships improve your life.

Toxic relationships break you down.

Healthy relationships build you up.

Toxic relationships are battles for superiority.

Healthy relationships are journeys of equality.

Toxic relationships make you both unhappy.

Healthy relationships make everyone happy.

There are plenty of fish in the sea, so if too many of your relationship aspects fall into the “toxic” category, you owe it to the both of you to get out. Life’s too short to waste with the wrong person.